Account for the relationship as it is now
Use a tone that fits the present relationship, not the closeness, authority, or access that existed in the past. For a message about how to correct a quote attributed to you, use this factual base: state the claim, where it appeared, what can be verified, and who actually needs the correction.
Ask without assigning an obligation
Explain what you hope for while making decline, delay, or a different format genuinely acceptable. Ask for a correction, removal, or direct conversation and keep an accurate written record. Make the immediate next step clear enough that the recipient can answer without reconstructing the entire history.
Keep the ending honest
Do not publish private evidence, speculate about motive, or recruit an audience to punish someone. Use school, workplace, platform, legal, or police channels for threats, defamation risk, intimate material, or impersonation. Avoid future promises, guilt, flattery, or nostalgia that imply the recipient owes you access.