Work, career & practical

Contact a recruiter who stopped replying

Recruiter silence may mean a paused role, a changed brief, or an overloaded inbox. Your message should make it easy to provide a status, including an honest no.

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Rebuild the context in two lines

State the company, role, last conversation, and any action you completed. Do not make the recruiter search an old thread to understand why you are writing.

Ask a question that can be answered

Ask whether the role is active and whether you remain under consideration. Give them permission to say the process has closed, which is more likely to produce a useful answer than a vague request to connect.

Leave the relationship intact

If there is no reply after one final check-in, thank them for the earlier conversation and move on. Avoid public accusations or contacting their colleagues about the silence.

Common questions

People also ask

Why do recruiters stop responding?
Roles are paused, priorities change, clients delay decisions, and recruiters manage many candidates. Silence is frustrating, but the cause is not always personal.
How many times should I follow up with a recruiter?
Usually one check-in and one final note, spaced several business days apart. More contact rarely changes the hiring decision.
What should my final recruiter message say?
Ask whether the role is still active, say you remain interested, and invite a direct update if the process has ended so you can plan accordingly.

What Kildr supports now

The full request stays simple. The controls around it are deliberate.

Opening is free

Recipients never pay to open or read a Kildr message. Before opening, they see who is asking when the sender chose to identify themselves and the total amount paid. A sender phone number is shown only when the sender explicitly chooses to share it.

The recipient stays in control

A recipient can decline without opening, block one sender, opt out of Kildr entirely, or report an opened message. A normal sender block can be removed by the recipient later. Declining means that message can never be viewed afterward.

Three optional responses

After opening, the recipient can choose “I need to think”, “Text me”, or “Never contact me again”. The first two can be switched after a 10-minute cooldown. “Never contact me again” is final, and the recipient can permanently block that sender or all Kildr requests.

Themes and read receipts are optional

Senders can choose free themes or buy a premium theme. An active paid theme is added to the visible Amount paid total. A separate read-receipt add-on unlocks Opened and Read status; without it, the sender's lifecycle information stops at Delivered.

Paying creates the request and optional sender features. It never creates an obligation for the recipient to open, respond, unblock, or make contact.

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